14 Signs Wedding Planning Is Taking Over Your Life

From the time you get engaged until your walk down the aisle, your brain will be full of wedding planning details. It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of it all, but it’s important to not let it consume you—your engagement is supposed to be a happy time! Here’s how to tell if wedding planning has taken over your life.

1. You skip happy hour with your co-workers because you need to watch the latest SYTTD episode for wedding dress inspiration.

2. Working out feels like a vacation because you knows it’s at least an hour of your life not spent wedding planning.

3. The choice between crossback and chiavari chairs feels like the hardest decision of your life.

4. You’ve set weather.com as your homepage and check the forecast for your wedding date every single morning, resulting in a daily panic attack.

5. The last fight you had with your significant other was about your wedding hashtag (PS: solve that problem here!)

6. You’ve developed strong, passionate feelings for color coordinating everything (down to the groomsmen’s socks).

7. Your maid-of-honor has stopped answering your phone calls because she doesn’t want to hear about your wedding favor drama for the 57th time.

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8. Your phone buzzes every 30 minutes with selfies from your mother-in-law asking if you approve of her dress.

9. You’ve temporarily replaced your daily venti triple caramel macchiato with generic instant coffee all in the name of your honeymoon fund.

10. You’ve considered inviting the UPS delivery guy to your wedding because he’s at your house so often delivering packages filled with last-minute wedding purchases.

11. You completely spaced out during a work meeting because you were too busy doodling your new last name.

12. Your most-played songs on iTunes are all sappy love songs because you cannot for the life of you pick a first dance song.

13. You don’t know what’s going on in your parents’ lives despite talking to them daily because your conversations only revolve around table linens, appetizer options, and ceremony music.

14. You talk to your wedding planner more often than you talk to your fiancé(e), and you live together.

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Get the best Family Wedding planning ideas from | WedAlert.com

A wedding is always exciting. A lot of planning and preparation go into action so that the wedding will be memorable meaningful and as one-of-a-kind as the marrying couple. Yet, each couple has consideration unique to them.

There are couples where both partners marry for the first time.

There are couples where one or both partners have been married before but have no children.

There are couples where one or both partners have been married before and have children.

And there are December couples who often have children and grandchildren.

This article is dedicated to couples that will have a “blended” family once they are married. That is, children will have a new parent and possibly new siblings.

Many, though not all marrying or re-marrying couples are looking for ways to integrate the children into the wedding ceremony and / or reception in such a way that it will become a Family Wedding.

Some people wonder why should a wedding not be dedicated to the bride and groom alone. Why should it not be “Their Day”?

There are two main reasons. One of the reason is that children need reassurance. They need to know that they are welcome and wanted by both parents and new siblings. The other, not less important, is that parents WANT their children to be an integral part of the wedding and celebration.

The following are ideas, implementation of which depends on the ages / abilities of the children and the degree of involvement the marrying couple wishes to dedicate to them.

Children must always feel that they are IMPORTANT especially now, when their parent is marrying a new life partner.

LET’S BEGIN WITH PLANNING AND PREPARATION.

Children who are old enough should be asked to put on their thinking caps and help with the wedding planning and preparations. Their input should always be taken into consideration and if possible acted upon.

Children can make recommendations ranging from wedding themes to color schemes. They can suggest favors and help make them. Some parents even let the children help address envelops and / or stuff them.

It is also very important to make shopping for the wedding attire a family affair.

WE’LL CONTINUE WITH THE CEREMONY

First come the obvious. If the children or grandchildren are not grown ups, they should be given the duties of a Flower Child and Ring Bearer.

During the ceremony, after the bride and groom exchange vows, they may integrate vows dedicated especially to the children.

Children who are old and responsible enough, should participate in the Unity Candle ceremony. Here there are a few options.

If only one or two children are involved, they should be given their own tapers and join the bride and groom in lighting the pillar candle.

However, if more than two children are involved, they should receive their own tapers but rather than light the pillar candle, light their tapers from it.

The candle lighting ceremony is a perfect opportunity for children who are old enough to congratulate the bride and groom and acknowledge the new family union.

A friend who recently got married told us about the Unity Candle ceremony at her wedding. She had ordered a personalized pillar candle and seven personalized tapers, and gave each child a personalized taper.

The ceremony was actually a Family Unity Ceremony. All five children (his two and her three), all above 10 years old, wrote a congratulation and thank you note to the bride and groom. Once the Unity Candle was lit, they took turns lighting their tapers from the pillar and in unison, recited the following:

“As I light my candle from the Unity Candle, I feel the warmth, love and excitement of my new, larger family.

Thank you Susan (BRIDE’S NAME or MOM or MOTHER) and Bill (GROOM’S NAME or DAD or FATHER) for having given me an extended family to love and be loved by. Congratulations! I love you!

It was such a touching experience that there wasn’t a dry eye in the room!

Right after the Family Unity Candle ceremony, Susan and Bill exchanged their first gifts as a husband and wife and gave each of the children a Family Unity Medallion, and a BIG welcome hug.

Another way to bestow honor to a teen age or older child is to have a son walk the bride and/or a daughter walk the groom down the aisle. The child can be either the bride’s or groom’s.

The reception offers as many opportunities for involving the children as there is imagination. There are also the obvious toasts, dances, special responsibilities and tasks.

By Nily Glaser

©All rights reserved to Nily Glaser 2004

A-wedding Day

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When to order wedding dresses | Articles

While some couples plan a whirlwind wedding with a four month engagement, most take at least a year or even two to plan the big day. Most brides want to start shopping for that wedding dress as soon as they have a ring on their finger, but how soon is too soon, and how late is too late?

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Here are the answers to some of the common questions brides have about when to order wedding dresses:

When should I order my dress?

Ideally, you should begin looking at dresses twelve to eighteen months before your wedding, with a view to ordering your dress about a year in advance. This will give you plenty of time for alterations to be done thoroughly, and for you to find the right accessories, flowers, and hair style to complement the dress.

Brides buying a dress off the rack will still need to have some alterations done, but they may be able to get away with ordering a dress six to nine months before the wedding; around three months should be scheduled between the first and final fittings to allow time for alterations. Having a dress custom made will take longer, and will require three or four fittings, so a year is advisable.

Brides that are ordering a dress online, or looking for a pre-loved gown should also order a year in advance to give them time to find an alternative if they are disappointed with the gown when it arrives.

If I order it too early will my dress be out of fashion?

Bridal fashion is always a year ahead of itself because brides are expected to order their gowns a year in advance. However, it is true that a whole new range of gowns and styles will be released if you order more than a year before the big day.

If you are really concerned about being in fashion, you should wait until the bridal wear ranges for your wedding season have been revealed, but the changes in wedding gown design from one year to the next aren’t that dramatic, and you can be sure your guests won’t know if you are wearing last year’s dress. If you buy a dress at the end of its season you might even get a discount.

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Should I wait to order it until after I’ve lost weight?

Many brides want to lose weight before their big day, but waiting to order your dress until you have achieved your dream weight isn’t advisable. Unless you plan really drastic weight loss, you will probably only drop one dress size, and most gowns can be altered to accommodate this.

Even if you lose weight your basic body shape should be the same at your first and final fitting.

Tell the assistant that fits your wedding dress if you plan to lose a lot of weight and they will be able to tell you a date for final alterations. This is usually around six weeks before your wedding, and after this time it will be difficult to have your dress altered to account for further weight loss.

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What I Didn’t Expect to Learn Planning My Gay Wedding | BridalGuide

A wedding is a wedding. The only difference between gay ones and straight ones is what the officiant pronounces you at the end of the ceremony. Right?

OK, so that’s like 80 percent true. As my fiancée (now wife) and I learned while planning our wedding alongside our good (and straight) friends marrying the weekend after us, the issues were the same: When are RSVPs due? What can we get for favors? Speakers cost how much? But in a few situations, being gay can tack a few extra items onto your to-do list, or at least some considerations.

I’m going to share a few of the things you don’t have to worry about — and, of course, those that you do — as a gay couple planning your big day. Here’s how it was both the same as and different than planning a straight one.

emelie burnette

What’s Different

Finding a venue: After coming this close to putting a deposit down on a place we discovered didn’t allow gay weddings at all, my fiancée and I were pretty heartbroken and a bit shell-shocked to boot. So don’t get your heart set too soon, and research mindfully — consider finding a local gay-friendly venue database. Nothing beats having an event coordinator who’s almost as excited about the Prop 8 ruling as you were.

Picking titles: Mr. and Mr.? Ms. and Mrs.? Who’s the bride — anyone? People won’t know what to call you unless you tell them, so particularly with photographer contracts and other wedding paperwork, you’ll need to at least have agreed upon something for official documentation. Even if you don’t feel strongly about it, have an answer ready so you don’t leave anyone guessing, feeling awkward, or — worse — offending someone else.

Dealing with drama: Unfortunately, there are still plenty of people against same-sex marriage. Recognize that the topic is sensitive for some, and don’t expect it, but at least prepare yourself for negative feedback. It only took one uncle’s call about my sinful ways to dampen my excitement and cause a rift among family. Lean on your support group: my fiancée and I had 109 incredibly loving people attend our wedding, and they are all OK with ignoring the naysayers. Allow yourself to be the bigger person, accept others’ perceptions of you, and enjoy what you have.

emelie burnette

What’s Not

Choosing your traditions: Just like your brother and sister-in-law got to walk down the aisle — together — to “Take Me Out to the Ball Game,” you can do whatever you want for your big day! Have both your dads walk you down the aisle, let Doctor Who inspire your outfits, or even invite your officiant to stand alongside a baby elephant, like my gay acquaintances did for their Thai destination ceremony. It’s your day, so plan whatever tickles your fancy.

Applying for a license: In the 13 states where gay marriage is legal, applying for a marriage license is as easy as a Google search and an afternoon appointment. Check your local jurisdiction for more filing rules, but the process is the same for all couples (just remember to have those titles ready!).

Having fun: OK, this one’s a given, but nothing about who you choose to love will dictate how awesome planning your big day is. So just sit back, relax, enjoy as many free cake samples as you can, and organize yourself one heck of a dance party.

Photos by Rachel Castillo

— Emelie Burnette

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Five Steps to a Happy Marriage

Heading to the altar is just the beginning. To live in perfect harmony is quite another challenge. For a happy marriage, it’s important to assess your fiancé’s goals and compare them to your own. Common lifetime ambitions and achievements are vital. Start by communicating what you wish for in the future, understanding your partner’s goals, and incorporating a compromise when necessary.

Money Matters

Money is the key to owning your own home, nice cars, and all of your personal possessions. If you’re like most couples, you want the all-American dream but how to achieve this is where disagreements can begin. How one person manages money can be another person’s nightmare.

Discuss how you will budget your money, how many credit cards you will have, and how much debt-load you can incur before becoming uncomfortable. Do you wish to be a stay-at-home mom or dad? How much of your income do you plan on investing or saving? Set some rules in advance and be prepared when life gives you a bump in the road.

Lovemaking

When everyday life sets in, chances are that your desires for sex will vary. A healthy sexual relationship begins with understanding your partner’s needs and compromising them with your own. Don’t be shy. If you talk about these issues from the get-go, it won’t be near as difficult later on. Lifetime changes, disagreements, and stress are among many things that may alter your sex life. Communication is very important to getting you back on track.

Children

Whether you’re acquiring a ready-made family or planning for the future, make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to children. If, when, and how many kids you desire needs to be discussed in-depth. Unfortunately, not everything goes as planned but if you have the same basic values on child-rearing you’re less likely to argue about these issues after your wedding day.

Household Chores

In today’s world, both the husband and wife often need to work outside of the home to make ends meet. It’s simply not fair for one spouse to do most of the household chores. Happy couples share responsibilities. Make decisions on who will do the cooking, cleaning, yard work, etc., and rotate the chores when necessary. Agree to be considerate and pick up after yourselves to make the jobs easier.

Religion

Religion is often worked out between a couple when they’re planning their wedding. The sparks may begin to fly after the wedding when it comes to rearing children. Before you get to the altar, have some lengthy discussions about your faith. If you come from different backgrounds, which religion will you encourage your children to follow? Can you compromise? Do you plan on letting them decide for themselves while they’re still young? Whatever you decide, treat these issues with tolerance and respect and you’ll both be on the way to a healthy, happy marriage.

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101 Social Media Etiquette for You and Your Wedding Guests |

So you’re getting #married! And because it’s all about social media these days (let’s be honest; social media has taken over the world) it is only normal that you, the bride-to-be, share your happiest moments on your social media networks.

 

Many brides and grooms are sharing their weddings and don’t mind the entire buzz. But believe it or not, there are a few social media etiquette rules you as a couple and your wedding guests should take into consideration.

 

Here are 7 Social Media Etiquette Tips for you and your partner:

 

  1. Tell Your Family and Friends First: Announce your engagement to your close friends and family before posting it on Facebook or Tweeting about it.
  2. Changing Your Relationship Status: There is no right time to change your status or last name (if you are doing so) on your social media networks. You and your partner decide whenever is best for you, whether it’s now, later or never.
  3. Don’t Ignore the Paper Invites: Yes you can send your ‘Save the Date’ and pre-wedding party invitations online, but your wedding invitation cards should always be sent the traditional way.
  4. Encourage Your Guests to Share: Inform your guests that you are OK with their sharing your wedding pictures and details on their own Facebook pages, Instagram accounts, etc.
  5. Share Your Own:  Want to post a picture of your beautiful ring? Go for it; just keep the cost and carat a secret.
  6. Don’t Complain: Do not share your wedding drama and bridezilla moments with your guests, keep a happy vibe to it.
  7. The Wedding Tweeter: You might be able to tweet or update your Facebook status once or twice on your wedding day, but don’t overdo it. We don’t think a bride should be stuck to her phone on her wedding day.

 

And Here are 3 Social Media Etiquette Tips for Wedding Guests:

 

  1. Keep it to yourself: If the couple has not yet announced their engagement or wedding plans on their social media networks, don’t congratulate them online. Wait until the couple is ready to share the news themselves. Send a private message, call them or congratulate them in person.
  2. Sharing the bride and groom’s pictures: Always ask the couple if they are OK with you sharing their wedding pictures.
  3. Don’t share your wedding planning questions: Yes the bride is your best friend but send any wedding related questions in a private message.

 

Who Pays For What? Find detail and tradition on wedding paying terms | WedAlert.com

As with many changing customs and traditions, the financing of a wedding has changed too. It is no longer written in stone as to who is required to pay for different aspects of a wedding. In fact, many brides and grooms are paying for their own wedding.However, here are the “traditional” roles in financing a wedding for your convenience: THE BRIDE generally pays for the groom’s wedding ring, lodging for her out of town attendants, a luncheon or party for her bridesmaids, a wedding gift for her future husband, and gifts for the bridesmaids. THE GROOM generally pays for engagement ring and the bride’s wedding rings, any fees for the marriage license and/or other legal documents. He also finances the costs of the honeymoon, a wedding gift for his future wife, lodging for his out of town attendants, the clergy fee, and transportation. THE BRIDESMAIDS and MAID OF HONOR generally pay for the bridal shower, and the bachelorette party. They also pay for their own gowns and accessories. THE GROOMSMEN and BEST MAN generally pay for the bachelor party and for their own tuxedos or other formal wear. PARENTS OF THE GROOM generally pay for the rehearsal dinner, and/or after wedding brunch. Of course, they also give a generous gift to the couple. PARENTS OF THE BRIDE generally pay for everything else. This comes from the old tradition of dowry. They pay for everything needed for the reception, including music, flowers, the reception facility, food, bar costs, and anything else. They also buy their daughter her bridal gown, pay any gratuities, and of course, they also give a generous gift to the couple.As stated these are not rules but merely guidelines. Your own personal finances will dictate what type of wedding reception you have, and who pays for what is entirely up to you and your families.

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