14 Signs Wedding Planning Is Taking Over Your Life

From the time you get engaged until your walk down the aisle, your brain will be full of wedding planning details. It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of it all, but it’s important to not let it consume you—your engagement is supposed to be a happy time! Here’s how to tell if wedding planning has taken over your life.

1. You skip happy hour with your co-workers because you need to watch the latest SYTTD episode for wedding dress inspiration.

2. Working out feels like a vacation because you knows it’s at least an hour of your life not spent wedding planning.

3. The choice between crossback and chiavari chairs feels like the hardest decision of your life.

4. You’ve set weather.com as your homepage and check the forecast for your wedding date every single morning, resulting in a daily panic attack.

5. The last fight you had with your significant other was about your wedding hashtag (PS: solve that problem here!)

6. You’ve developed strong, passionate feelings for color coordinating everything (down to the groomsmen’s socks).

7. Your maid-of-honor has stopped answering your phone calls because she doesn’t want to hear about your wedding favor drama for the 57th time.

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8. Your phone buzzes every 30 minutes with selfies from your mother-in-law asking if you approve of her dress.

9. You’ve temporarily replaced your daily venti triple caramel macchiato with generic instant coffee all in the name of your honeymoon fund.

10. You’ve considered inviting the UPS delivery guy to your wedding because he’s at your house so often delivering packages filled with last-minute wedding purchases.

11. You completely spaced out during a work meeting because you were too busy doodling your new last name.

12. Your most-played songs on iTunes are all sappy love songs because you cannot for the life of you pick a first dance song.

13. You don’t know what’s going on in your parents’ lives despite talking to them daily because your conversations only revolve around table linens, appetizer options, and ceremony music.

14. You talk to your wedding planner more often than you talk to your fiancé(e), and you live together.

via 14 Signs Wedding Planning Is Taking Over Your Life.

5 wedding ‘staples’ to skip – Yahoo Finance Canada

The save the dates are in and the invitations on their way. In just a few short weeks, wedding season will be in full swing, along with the stress of the average $31,213 price tag for the happy couple and $592 average cost for guests. That’s according to the annual wedding report from The Knot and a recent survey by American Express.

With weddings and pre-wedding events already crowding the planner pages of every other spring and summer weekend, it’s time to think budget. Every year, the same financial concerns come up, and despite the whispered misgivings of the budget-conscious and financially-strapped, the unreasonable wedding culture continues. Even the most grounded and low-key brides-to-be eventually fall prey to the hysteria of wedding mania, as the most frugal guests get caught up in unreasonable expectations and fears of violating misguided laws of etiquette.

Social, cultural and familial precedents, along with high emotions and unrealistic expectations set by media and pop culture, fuel the continuous escalation of a simple celebration into a high-cost, high-stress event.

What the wedding industry seems to be suffering from is a gross lack of perspective. Practices that are completely and entirely optional have become thought of as must-have staples, driving many couples either further into debt or farther from major financial goals such as buying a home or starting a family.

While every bride and groom will have his or her own priorities when it comes to planning the big day, it helps to start with the bare bones of what’s required — a marriage license and officiant. Remembering that everything else is optional might help infuse a long overdue dose of reason into the wedding industry.

Here are some prime examples of optional wedding rituals turned overblown staples that you might be better off without.

The engagement ring: After the reception, the engagement ring is the second biggest wedding expense, coming in at an average of $5,598 in 2013. What couples seem to have forgotten is that it’s the commitment to marry that makes them engaged, not the money spent on a piece of jewelry that will become redundant once wedding bands are exchanged.

The standard three months’ salary spent on a ring could be used to fund so many alternate, shared endeavors, such as furnishing a home or kick starting future college saving. Buying into an artificially controlled diamond supply will not make your love or relationship any more valuable, but it certainly can result in a significant hit to your net worth.

The pricey wedding dress. You don’t have to skip the dress entirely, but you can certainly pass on the several thousand-dollar price tag. Wedding dresses are for one day only. Affordable alternatives can be found online, through resale sites and dress rental companies. You might even be able to borrow a dress from a family member or close friend.

Paper: It’s the thick of the digital age and despite a slight decline in average spending on invites, the 2014 mean price tag still sat at $439. Given the ubiquity of digital correspondence, including five different pieces of paper in one invitation that already references an online website for more information seems awful wasteful, both financially and environmentally.

Pre-wedding events: What started as a singular precursor to the big day has evolved into an engagement party, lingerie party, spa day, bachelorette party and goodness knows what else, each with its own set of commitments and fiscal expectations. The tab for these cumulative events tacked onto wedding day costs can easily soar into the hundreds if not thousands of dollars. Add to that a destination event, an increasingly common choice among couples, and you can pretty much count on kissing at least one of your personal financial goals goodbye.

Gifts: With so much spending required for guests to simply attend nuptial celebrations, a return to “presence as the present” might be in order. The $592 average cost of attendance doesn’t even include gifts that often follow the misguided “cover the cost of your plate” myth — easily tacking on an extra hundred bucks or two. As the etiquette experts say, an invitation is not an invoice. Give in line with your budget and in a way that makes for you and your relationship with the happy couple.

A wedding is a celebration, and stressing over overblown costs is a total buzz kill. It’s time to strip away the many so-called staples and redefine weddings, building from the ground up, prioritizing what’s most important. While expectations and emotions run high, you can stay grounded in your fiscal reality by connecting with what’s ultimately the most important part of your big day — your new relationship.

via 5 wedding ‘staples’ to skip – Yahoo Finance Canada.

Get the best Family Wedding planning ideas from | WedAlert.com

A wedding is always exciting. A lot of planning and preparation go into action so that the wedding will be memorable meaningful and as one-of-a-kind as the marrying couple. Yet, each couple has consideration unique to them.

There are couples where both partners marry for the first time.

There are couples where one or both partners have been married before but have no children.

There are couples where one or both partners have been married before and have children.

And there are December couples who often have children and grandchildren.

This article is dedicated to couples that will have a “blended” family once they are married. That is, children will have a new parent and possibly new siblings.

Many, though not all marrying or re-marrying couples are looking for ways to integrate the children into the wedding ceremony and / or reception in such a way that it will become a Family Wedding.

Some people wonder why should a wedding not be dedicated to the bride and groom alone. Why should it not be “Their Day”?

There are two main reasons. One of the reason is that children need reassurance. They need to know that they are welcome and wanted by both parents and new siblings. The other, not less important, is that parents WANT their children to be an integral part of the wedding and celebration.

The following are ideas, implementation of which depends on the ages / abilities of the children and the degree of involvement the marrying couple wishes to dedicate to them.

Children must always feel that they are IMPORTANT especially now, when their parent is marrying a new life partner.

LET’S BEGIN WITH PLANNING AND PREPARATION.

Children who are old enough should be asked to put on their thinking caps and help with the wedding planning and preparations. Their input should always be taken into consideration and if possible acted upon.

Children can make recommendations ranging from wedding themes to color schemes. They can suggest favors and help make them. Some parents even let the children help address envelops and / or stuff them.

It is also very important to make shopping for the wedding attire a family affair.

WE’LL CONTINUE WITH THE CEREMONY

First come the obvious. If the children or grandchildren are not grown ups, they should be given the duties of a Flower Child and Ring Bearer.

During the ceremony, after the bride and groom exchange vows, they may integrate vows dedicated especially to the children.

Children who are old and responsible enough, should participate in the Unity Candle ceremony. Here there are a few options.

If only one or two children are involved, they should be given their own tapers and join the bride and groom in lighting the pillar candle.

However, if more than two children are involved, they should receive their own tapers but rather than light the pillar candle, light their tapers from it.

The candle lighting ceremony is a perfect opportunity for children who are old enough to congratulate the bride and groom and acknowledge the new family union.

A friend who recently got married told us about the Unity Candle ceremony at her wedding. She had ordered a personalized pillar candle and seven personalized tapers, and gave each child a personalized taper.

The ceremony was actually a Family Unity Ceremony. All five children (his two and her three), all above 10 years old, wrote a congratulation and thank you note to the bride and groom. Once the Unity Candle was lit, they took turns lighting their tapers from the pillar and in unison, recited the following:

“As I light my candle from the Unity Candle, I feel the warmth, love and excitement of my new, larger family.

Thank you Susan (BRIDE’S NAME or MOM or MOTHER) and Bill (GROOM’S NAME or DAD or FATHER) for having given me an extended family to love and be loved by. Congratulations! I love you!

It was such a touching experience that there wasn’t a dry eye in the room!

Right after the Family Unity Candle ceremony, Susan and Bill exchanged their first gifts as a husband and wife and gave each of the children a Family Unity Medallion, and a BIG welcome hug.

Another way to bestow honor to a teen age or older child is to have a son walk the bride and/or a daughter walk the groom down the aisle. The child can be either the bride’s or groom’s.

The reception offers as many opportunities for involving the children as there is imagination. There are also the obvious toasts, dances, special responsibilities and tasks.

By Nily Glaser

©All rights reserved to Nily Glaser 2004

A-wedding Day

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When to order wedding dresses | Articles

While some couples plan a whirlwind wedding with a four month engagement, most take at least a year or even two to plan the big day. Most brides want to start shopping for that wedding dress as soon as they have a ring on their finger, but how soon is too soon, and how late is too late?

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Here are the answers to some of the common questions brides have about when to order wedding dresses:

When should I order my dress?

Ideally, you should begin looking at dresses twelve to eighteen months before your wedding, with a view to ordering your dress about a year in advance. This will give you plenty of time for alterations to be done thoroughly, and for you to find the right accessories, flowers, and hair style to complement the dress.

Brides buying a dress off the rack will still need to have some alterations done, but they may be able to get away with ordering a dress six to nine months before the wedding; around three months should be scheduled between the first and final fittings to allow time for alterations. Having a dress custom made will take longer, and will require three or four fittings, so a year is advisable.

Brides that are ordering a dress online, or looking for a pre-loved gown should also order a year in advance to give them time to find an alternative if they are disappointed with the gown when it arrives.

If I order it too early will my dress be out of fashion?

Bridal fashion is always a year ahead of itself because brides are expected to order their gowns a year in advance. However, it is true that a whole new range of gowns and styles will be released if you order more than a year before the big day.

If you are really concerned about being in fashion, you should wait until the bridal wear ranges for your wedding season have been revealed, but the changes in wedding gown design from one year to the next aren’t that dramatic, and you can be sure your guests won’t know if you are wearing last year’s dress. If you buy a dress at the end of its season you might even get a discount.

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Should I wait to order it until after I’ve lost weight?

Many brides want to lose weight before their big day, but waiting to order your dress until you have achieved your dream weight isn’t advisable. Unless you plan really drastic weight loss, you will probably only drop one dress size, and most gowns can be altered to accommodate this.

Even if you lose weight your basic body shape should be the same at your first and final fitting.

Tell the assistant that fits your wedding dress if you plan to lose a lot of weight and they will be able to tell you a date for final alterations. This is usually around six weeks before your wedding, and after this time it will be difficult to have your dress altered to account for further weight loss.

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Contract Points for the Bridal Salon

So what is a wedding dress contract? Well, it’s a document you have to sign with the salon before buying a dress. Since they’re making this dress especially for you, it clearly outlines the details of your purchase. It will include the dress style, the color, the size, the delivery date and any alterations to the original design you’re requesting.

The first thing you’ll want to do is to read the fine print, just like you would any other legal document. We’ve seen wedding dress contracts that state the designer can make alterations to your dress without your consent, so make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into before you sign over your rights and hand over your money.

Also, double-check all the information on the salon/dressmaker’s contract. If it contains incorrect information and you sign it, the fault is yours. You could end up getting the wrong wedding dress (or the wrong size or color) and there will be nothing you can do about it.

Depending on your dress and changes you might make to it, there may be extra charges added to your final amount. This is the time to get all these extras listed with the costs.

When you sign the contract, you’ll also need to leave a deposit for the dress. This can vary: Kleinfeld Bridal in New York City, for example, requires a 60 percent deposit to put in the order, and the remaining balance is due when the gown arrives from the designer about eight weeks prior to the wedding date.

Your contract should include all of the following information (don’t forget to double-check for both spelling and accuracy of details):

The Salon

Salon name

Address and phone number

Names of the consultants who assisted you

The Money

Date and time of purchase

Total amount

Extra charges

Amount of deposit (ensure this amount is marked clearly on the salon contract)

Amount still owed

Date balance is to be paid

How many fittings are included in the price (if any)

Cost of each additional fitting

Means of payment

The Dress Details

Designer name

Style number or name

Color

Size/measurements sent to manufacturer

The Follow-Up

Expected delivery date

Date of first fitting

Name of seamstress/tailor

— Jennie Ma

via Contract Points for the Bridal Salon.

Wedding Gown: When Should I Start Wedding Dress Shopping?TheKnot.com –

Q.In order to get all the details we want on the date we want, my fiance and I are planning a pretty long engagement — almost two years. Unfortunately, I’m already itching to start looking at bridal gowns. Is it too soon to start my wedding dress search?

 

A.When to begin looking for your wedding gown is entirely up to you. Most brides don’t begin the search until a year to nine months before the wedding, but if you’ve got more time, there’s no reason you can’t use it. If you wind up ordering a custom-made wedding dress from a bridal salon, it can take a while for the dress to arrive and for the store to make alterations, so it pays to give yourself time to shop at a comfortable pace and leave plenty of leeway for preparations.The downside? If you buy a wedding gown now, you will need to store it (which could be a pain if you’ve got a full skirt and a studio apartment!). You may be able to have it stored at your seamstress’ or at the salon though, so be sure to ask about this possibility. Also, know that if you choose a wedding dress now, a whole new wave of gowns will come out next year (what if you find something you like better?). If you do decide to delay, you can plan to save money during the first year of your engagement so that when the time comes, you can shop for your dream wedding dress without financial stress.

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Five Steps to a Happy Marriage

Heading to the altar is just the beginning. To live in perfect harmony is quite another challenge. For a happy marriage, it’s important to assess your fiancé’s goals and compare them to your own. Common lifetime ambitions and achievements are vital. Start by communicating what you wish for in the future, understanding your partner’s goals, and incorporating a compromise when necessary.

Money Matters

Money is the key to owning your own home, nice cars, and all of your personal possessions. If you’re like most couples, you want the all-American dream but how to achieve this is where disagreements can begin. How one person manages money can be another person’s nightmare.

Discuss how you will budget your money, how many credit cards you will have, and how much debt-load you can incur before becoming uncomfortable. Do you wish to be a stay-at-home mom or dad? How much of your income do you plan on investing or saving? Set some rules in advance and be prepared when life gives you a bump in the road.

Lovemaking

When everyday life sets in, chances are that your desires for sex will vary. A healthy sexual relationship begins with understanding your partner’s needs and compromising them with your own. Don’t be shy. If you talk about these issues from the get-go, it won’t be near as difficult later on. Lifetime changes, disagreements, and stress are among many things that may alter your sex life. Communication is very important to getting you back on track.

Children

Whether you’re acquiring a ready-made family or planning for the future, make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to children. If, when, and how many kids you desire needs to be discussed in-depth. Unfortunately, not everything goes as planned but if you have the same basic values on child-rearing you’re less likely to argue about these issues after your wedding day.

Household Chores

In today’s world, both the husband and wife often need to work outside of the home to make ends meet. It’s simply not fair for one spouse to do most of the household chores. Happy couples share responsibilities. Make decisions on who will do the cooking, cleaning, yard work, etc., and rotate the chores when necessary. Agree to be considerate and pick up after yourselves to make the jobs easier.

Religion

Religion is often worked out between a couple when they’re planning their wedding. The sparks may begin to fly after the wedding when it comes to rearing children. Before you get to the altar, have some lengthy discussions about your faith. If you come from different backgrounds, which religion will you encourage your children to follow? Can you compromise? Do you plan on letting them decide for themselves while they’re still young? Whatever you decide, treat these issues with tolerance and respect and you’ll both be on the way to a healthy, happy marriage.

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