14 Signs Wedding Planning Is Taking Over Your Life

From the time you get engaged until your walk down the aisle, your brain will be full of wedding planning details. It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of it all, but it’s important to not let it consume you—your engagement is supposed to be a happy time! Here’s how to tell if wedding planning has taken over your life.

1. You skip happy hour with your co-workers because you need to watch the latest SYTTD episode for wedding dress inspiration.

2. Working out feels like a vacation because you knows it’s at least an hour of your life not spent wedding planning.

3. The choice between crossback and chiavari chairs feels like the hardest decision of your life.

4. You’ve set weather.com as your homepage and check the forecast for your wedding date every single morning, resulting in a daily panic attack.

5. The last fight you had with your significant other was about your wedding hashtag (PS: solve that problem here!)

6. You’ve developed strong, passionate feelings for color coordinating everything (down to the groomsmen’s socks).

7. Your maid-of-honor has stopped answering your phone calls because she doesn’t want to hear about your wedding favor drama for the 57th time.

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8. Your phone buzzes every 30 minutes with selfies from your mother-in-law asking if you approve of her dress.

9. You’ve temporarily replaced your daily venti triple caramel macchiato with generic instant coffee all in the name of your honeymoon fund.

10. You’ve considered inviting the UPS delivery guy to your wedding because he’s at your house so often delivering packages filled with last-minute wedding purchases.

11. You completely spaced out during a work meeting because you were too busy doodling your new last name.

12. Your most-played songs on iTunes are all sappy love songs because you cannot for the life of you pick a first dance song.

13. You don’t know what’s going on in your parents’ lives despite talking to them daily because your conversations only revolve around table linens, appetizer options, and ceremony music.

14. You talk to your wedding planner more often than you talk to your fiancé(e), and you live together.

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5 wedding ‘staples’ to skip – Yahoo Finance Canada

The save the dates are in and the invitations on their way. In just a few short weeks, wedding season will be in full swing, along with the stress of the average $31,213 price tag for the happy couple and $592 average cost for guests. That’s according to the annual wedding report from The Knot and a recent survey by American Express.

With weddings and pre-wedding events already crowding the planner pages of every other spring and summer weekend, it’s time to think budget. Every year, the same financial concerns come up, and despite the whispered misgivings of the budget-conscious and financially-strapped, the unreasonable wedding culture continues. Even the most grounded and low-key brides-to-be eventually fall prey to the hysteria of wedding mania, as the most frugal guests get caught up in unreasonable expectations and fears of violating misguided laws of etiquette.

Social, cultural and familial precedents, along with high emotions and unrealistic expectations set by media and pop culture, fuel the continuous escalation of a simple celebration into a high-cost, high-stress event.

What the wedding industry seems to be suffering from is a gross lack of perspective. Practices that are completely and entirely optional have become thought of as must-have staples, driving many couples either further into debt or farther from major financial goals such as buying a home or starting a family.

While every bride and groom will have his or her own priorities when it comes to planning the big day, it helps to start with the bare bones of what’s required — a marriage license and officiant. Remembering that everything else is optional might help infuse a long overdue dose of reason into the wedding industry.

Here are some prime examples of optional wedding rituals turned overblown staples that you might be better off without.

The engagement ring: After the reception, the engagement ring is the second biggest wedding expense, coming in at an average of $5,598 in 2013. What couples seem to have forgotten is that it’s the commitment to marry that makes them engaged, not the money spent on a piece of jewelry that will become redundant once wedding bands are exchanged.

The standard three months’ salary spent on a ring could be used to fund so many alternate, shared endeavors, such as furnishing a home or kick starting future college saving. Buying into an artificially controlled diamond supply will not make your love or relationship any more valuable, but it certainly can result in a significant hit to your net worth.

The pricey wedding dress. You don’t have to skip the dress entirely, but you can certainly pass on the several thousand-dollar price tag. Wedding dresses are for one day only. Affordable alternatives can be found online, through resale sites and dress rental companies. You might even be able to borrow a dress from a family member or close friend.

Paper: It’s the thick of the digital age and despite a slight decline in average spending on invites, the 2014 mean price tag still sat at $439. Given the ubiquity of digital correspondence, including five different pieces of paper in one invitation that already references an online website for more information seems awful wasteful, both financially and environmentally.

Pre-wedding events: What started as a singular precursor to the big day has evolved into an engagement party, lingerie party, spa day, bachelorette party and goodness knows what else, each with its own set of commitments and fiscal expectations. The tab for these cumulative events tacked onto wedding day costs can easily soar into the hundreds if not thousands of dollars. Add to that a destination event, an increasingly common choice among couples, and you can pretty much count on kissing at least one of your personal financial goals goodbye.

Gifts: With so much spending required for guests to simply attend nuptial celebrations, a return to “presence as the present” might be in order. The $592 average cost of attendance doesn’t even include gifts that often follow the misguided “cover the cost of your plate” myth — easily tacking on an extra hundred bucks or two. As the etiquette experts say, an invitation is not an invoice. Give in line with your budget and in a way that makes for you and your relationship with the happy couple.

A wedding is a celebration, and stressing over overblown costs is a total buzz kill. It’s time to strip away the many so-called staples and redefine weddings, building from the ground up, prioritizing what’s most important. While expectations and emotions run high, you can stay grounded in your fiscal reality by connecting with what’s ultimately the most important part of your big day — your new relationship.

via 5 wedding ‘staples’ to skip – Yahoo Finance Canada.

Get the best Family Wedding planning ideas from | WedAlert.com

A wedding is always exciting. A lot of planning and preparation go into action so that the wedding will be memorable meaningful and as one-of-a-kind as the marrying couple. Yet, each couple has consideration unique to them.

There are couples where both partners marry for the first time.

There are couples where one or both partners have been married before but have no children.

There are couples where one or both partners have been married before and have children.

And there are December couples who often have children and grandchildren.

This article is dedicated to couples that will have a “blended” family once they are married. That is, children will have a new parent and possibly new siblings.

Many, though not all marrying or re-marrying couples are looking for ways to integrate the children into the wedding ceremony and / or reception in such a way that it will become a Family Wedding.

Some people wonder why should a wedding not be dedicated to the bride and groom alone. Why should it not be “Their Day”?

There are two main reasons. One of the reason is that children need reassurance. They need to know that they are welcome and wanted by both parents and new siblings. The other, not less important, is that parents WANT their children to be an integral part of the wedding and celebration.

The following are ideas, implementation of which depends on the ages / abilities of the children and the degree of involvement the marrying couple wishes to dedicate to them.

Children must always feel that they are IMPORTANT especially now, when their parent is marrying a new life partner.

LET’S BEGIN WITH PLANNING AND PREPARATION.

Children who are old enough should be asked to put on their thinking caps and help with the wedding planning and preparations. Their input should always be taken into consideration and if possible acted upon.

Children can make recommendations ranging from wedding themes to color schemes. They can suggest favors and help make them. Some parents even let the children help address envelops and / or stuff them.

It is also very important to make shopping for the wedding attire a family affair.

WE’LL CONTINUE WITH THE CEREMONY

First come the obvious. If the children or grandchildren are not grown ups, they should be given the duties of a Flower Child and Ring Bearer.

During the ceremony, after the bride and groom exchange vows, they may integrate vows dedicated especially to the children.

Children who are old and responsible enough, should participate in the Unity Candle ceremony. Here there are a few options.

If only one or two children are involved, they should be given their own tapers and join the bride and groom in lighting the pillar candle.

However, if more than two children are involved, they should receive their own tapers but rather than light the pillar candle, light their tapers from it.

The candle lighting ceremony is a perfect opportunity for children who are old enough to congratulate the bride and groom and acknowledge the new family union.

A friend who recently got married told us about the Unity Candle ceremony at her wedding. She had ordered a personalized pillar candle and seven personalized tapers, and gave each child a personalized taper.

The ceremony was actually a Family Unity Ceremony. All five children (his two and her three), all above 10 years old, wrote a congratulation and thank you note to the bride and groom. Once the Unity Candle was lit, they took turns lighting their tapers from the pillar and in unison, recited the following:

“As I light my candle from the Unity Candle, I feel the warmth, love and excitement of my new, larger family.

Thank you Susan (BRIDE’S NAME or MOM or MOTHER) and Bill (GROOM’S NAME or DAD or FATHER) for having given me an extended family to love and be loved by. Congratulations! I love you!

It was such a touching experience that there wasn’t a dry eye in the room!

Right after the Family Unity Candle ceremony, Susan and Bill exchanged their first gifts as a husband and wife and gave each of the children a Family Unity Medallion, and a BIG welcome hug.

Another way to bestow honor to a teen age or older child is to have a son walk the bride and/or a daughter walk the groom down the aisle. The child can be either the bride’s or groom’s.

The reception offers as many opportunities for involving the children as there is imagination. There are also the obvious toasts, dances, special responsibilities and tasks.

By Nily Glaser

©All rights reserved to Nily Glaser 2004

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Beach wedding dress tips | Articles

Nothing is more romantic than exchanging your vows on a beautiful sandy beach with the sound of the ocean as your wedding soundtrack. However, there are certain practical considerations to a beach wedding, and finding the perfect beach wedding dress will probably be one of your top priorities.

Beach Wedding Dress

Here are seven tips on choosing the perfect beach wedding dress:

Tip 1: Consider a shorter style

The idea of your bridal train flowing along the sand may sound idyllic, but in reality it will be annoying. Getting sand trapped in your dress could easily damage it and make it look grubby on the photos. Shorter styles are popular for a beach wedding dress and a cocktail length or tea length dress can work really well. Some brides choose a varied length skirt, which is calf length at the back and knee length at the front to give a more bridal appearance without it dragging in the sand.

Tip 2: Choose a breathable fabric

If you are having a beach wedding, you are probably expecting hot weather and plenty of sunshine, so make sure the fabric of your wedding gown won’t make you overheat. Light and floaty fabrics that work well for a beach wedding dress are chiffon and charmeuse so look out for dresses that feature these materials.

Tip 3: Look for a casual style

Beach weddings tend to have a less formal look and feel than indoor weddings, so a very structured, formal bridal gown with a full skirt and bodice may look out of place. The ideal beach wedding dress will flow over the lines of the body to give a soft and smooth silhouette, complimented by loose curling hair and fresh flowers.

Beach Wedding Dress

Tip 4: Think about packing

Unless you are lucky enough to live next to the beach, a beach wedding will often require a certain amount of travelling. Finding a dress that is easy to pack and carry onto a plane as hand luggage will save you a lot of worry and will reduce the risk of your beach wedding dress being lost or damaged.

Tip 5: Don’t rely on heels

Bridal gowns can look very different on a bride wearing flat shoes, and one that is wearing towering stilettos, and many brides rely on high heels to make their dress work. However, a beach wedding dress should look good with flat shoes, pumps, flip flops or bare feet, as high heels and sand don’t really work well together.

Tip 6: Consider a strappy style

Although strapless bridal gowns are eternally fashionable, they often incorporate a lot of fabric and support which can be hot and uncomfortable for a beach wedding. If you are looking for a sexy style, nothing beats white spaghetti straps against tanned shoulders, and if you have straps you can try a style with a low cut back instead.

Tip 7: Prepare for a breeze

There is always the chance of a strong breeze if you are getting married at the water front, so try to limit any loose accessories on your wedding outfit that might blow around. Plenty of brides choose not to wear a veil with their beach wedding dress, and mini skirted dresses are best avoided to reduce the risk of embarrassment.

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When to order wedding dresses | Articles

While some couples plan a whirlwind wedding with a four month engagement, most take at least a year or even two to plan the big day. Most brides want to start shopping for that wedding dress as soon as they have a ring on their finger, but how soon is too soon, and how late is too late?

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Here are the answers to some of the common questions brides have about when to order wedding dresses:

When should I order my dress?

Ideally, you should begin looking at dresses twelve to eighteen months before your wedding, with a view to ordering your dress about a year in advance. This will give you plenty of time for alterations to be done thoroughly, and for you to find the right accessories, flowers, and hair style to complement the dress.

Brides buying a dress off the rack will still need to have some alterations done, but they may be able to get away with ordering a dress six to nine months before the wedding; around three months should be scheduled between the first and final fittings to allow time for alterations. Having a dress custom made will take longer, and will require three or four fittings, so a year is advisable.

Brides that are ordering a dress online, or looking for a pre-loved gown should also order a year in advance to give them time to find an alternative if they are disappointed with the gown when it arrives.

If I order it too early will my dress be out of fashion?

Bridal fashion is always a year ahead of itself because brides are expected to order their gowns a year in advance. However, it is true that a whole new range of gowns and styles will be released if you order more than a year before the big day.

If you are really concerned about being in fashion, you should wait until the bridal wear ranges for your wedding season have been revealed, but the changes in wedding gown design from one year to the next aren’t that dramatic, and you can be sure your guests won’t know if you are wearing last year’s dress. If you buy a dress at the end of its season you might even get a discount.

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Should I wait to order it until after I’ve lost weight?

Many brides want to lose weight before their big day, but waiting to order your dress until you have achieved your dream weight isn’t advisable. Unless you plan really drastic weight loss, you will probably only drop one dress size, and most gowns can be altered to accommodate this.

Even if you lose weight your basic body shape should be the same at your first and final fitting.

Tell the assistant that fits your wedding dress if you plan to lose a lot of weight and they will be able to tell you a date for final alterations. This is usually around six weeks before your wedding, and after this time it will be difficult to have your dress altered to account for further weight loss.

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Getting the Perfect Look, Wedding Planning, Central Texas Engagements

‘Tis the season to look forward to what’s coming down the aisle, but you don’t have to venture too far to find exactly what you’re looking for. Get the perfect look from a variety of Central Texas experts that can dress a bride from head to toe. So if you’re looking for something beyond soft silhouettes and sweet heart tops, read up on these fabulous trends that you are sure to find satisfying for your perfect bridal look.

Naked Lace — You haven’t seen stunning until you’ve checked out this season’s naked lace gowns. These dresses include a nude layer under a fabulous full-body lace design that compliments your curves in all the right places.

Ballroom Gowns — Flashing back into style this season are classic southern belle gowns with a little swing. With their intricate sequined designs and corset top accenting your waist, this darling little dress will flatter all figures.

Modest Attire — Modest is hottest this season as some of your favorite trends come back with a little more coverage. Local bridal shops have plenty of styles to choose from, so you are sure to find the perfect fit that compliments, conceals and stays classy.

Semiformal Wear —The wedding industry’s best kept secret is not so much of a secret anymore. More brides are searching for thrifty finds that still look fabulous, and are finding the looks from their favorite designers’ line of semiformal wear.

Off The Shoulder — Forget the 90s slouchy side shoulder scene. These trending designs are giving the right amount of sophistication and charm. With a variety of sleeve designs, brides can rock this bare shoulder look any time of year.

Sexy Backs —These gowns are bringing sexy back(s). Seriously. The styles are endless and the newest trends keep making their way back on the racks. These days it’s not all about the entrance; sexy backs will keep your guests in awe during the ceremony and as you leave the scene.

Plunging Necklines — How low can you go? Designers are taking the V-neck to a new level with this season’s bridal trends, and the brides just love it. For brides not comfortable with the deepest neckline trends, you can still go for the plunge with a more modest collar.

Side Slits — Inspired by the celebrity looks of Hollywood’s red carpet, the slit will spice up your walk down the aisle. If you thought the slit was only for simple silhouettes, think again. There are stunning looks with a subtle slit up to the thigh or ones that are little more conservative.

Cutout Illusions — What’s hotter than that little white dress? Perhaps a little white dress with cutout illusions in all the right places. Brides are walking the aisle with a seemingly more risqué look, but these modern gowns combine sexy and sophistication that surely won’t disappoint.

Once you’ve said yes to the dress, be sure to complete your perfect bridal look with a face that is sure to wow the crowds. Bridal makeup probably isn’t a priority for many until the last minute. Yet, a great complexion and flawless make-up application serve as the “cherry on top” of an exquisite expression, so discover some trendy looks that will make you feel comfortable and beautiful at the same time. A bold yet natural appearance never comes easy when you are tackling the task alone, so leave it to the experts. Professional make-up artists are sure to top off that flawless celebratory look by creating a presence that pops and compliments your stylish gown!

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What I Didn’t Expect to Learn Planning My Gay Wedding | BridalGuide

A wedding is a wedding. The only difference between gay ones and straight ones is what the officiant pronounces you at the end of the ceremony. Right?

OK, so that’s like 80 percent true. As my fiancée (now wife) and I learned while planning our wedding alongside our good (and straight) friends marrying the weekend after us, the issues were the same: When are RSVPs due? What can we get for favors? Speakers cost how much? But in a few situations, being gay can tack a few extra items onto your to-do list, or at least some considerations.

I’m going to share a few of the things you don’t have to worry about — and, of course, those that you do — as a gay couple planning your big day. Here’s how it was both the same as and different than planning a straight one.

emelie burnette

What’s Different

Finding a venue: After coming this close to putting a deposit down on a place we discovered didn’t allow gay weddings at all, my fiancée and I were pretty heartbroken and a bit shell-shocked to boot. So don’t get your heart set too soon, and research mindfully — consider finding a local gay-friendly venue database. Nothing beats having an event coordinator who’s almost as excited about the Prop 8 ruling as you were.

Picking titles: Mr. and Mr.? Ms. and Mrs.? Who’s the bride — anyone? People won’t know what to call you unless you tell them, so particularly with photographer contracts and other wedding paperwork, you’ll need to at least have agreed upon something for official documentation. Even if you don’t feel strongly about it, have an answer ready so you don’t leave anyone guessing, feeling awkward, or — worse — offending someone else.

Dealing with drama: Unfortunately, there are still plenty of people against same-sex marriage. Recognize that the topic is sensitive for some, and don’t expect it, but at least prepare yourself for negative feedback. It only took one uncle’s call about my sinful ways to dampen my excitement and cause a rift among family. Lean on your support group: my fiancée and I had 109 incredibly loving people attend our wedding, and they are all OK with ignoring the naysayers. Allow yourself to be the bigger person, accept others’ perceptions of you, and enjoy what you have.

emelie burnette

What’s Not

Choosing your traditions: Just like your brother and sister-in-law got to walk down the aisle — together — to “Take Me Out to the Ball Game,” you can do whatever you want for your big day! Have both your dads walk you down the aisle, let Doctor Who inspire your outfits, or even invite your officiant to stand alongside a baby elephant, like my gay acquaintances did for their Thai destination ceremony. It’s your day, so plan whatever tickles your fancy.

Applying for a license: In the 13 states where gay marriage is legal, applying for a marriage license is as easy as a Google search and an afternoon appointment. Check your local jurisdiction for more filing rules, but the process is the same for all couples (just remember to have those titles ready!).

Having fun: OK, this one’s a given, but nothing about who you choose to love will dictate how awesome planning your big day is. So just sit back, relax, enjoy as many free cake samples as you can, and organize yourself one heck of a dance party.

Photos by Rachel Castillo

— Emelie Burnette

via What I Didn’t Expect to Learn Planning My Gay Wedding | BridalGuide.

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