Get the best Family Wedding planning ideas from | WedAlert.com

A wedding is always exciting. A lot of planning and preparation go into action so that the wedding will be memorable meaningful and as one-of-a-kind as the marrying couple. Yet, each couple has consideration unique to them.

There are couples where both partners marry for the first time.

There are couples where one or both partners have been married before but have no children.

There are couples where one or both partners have been married before and have children.

And there are December couples who often have children and grandchildren.

This article is dedicated to couples that will have a “blended” family once they are married. That is, children will have a new parent and possibly new siblings.

Many, though not all marrying or re-marrying couples are looking for ways to integrate the children into the wedding ceremony and / or reception in such a way that it will become a Family Wedding.

Some people wonder why should a wedding not be dedicated to the bride and groom alone. Why should it not be “Their Day”?

There are two main reasons. One of the reason is that children need reassurance. They need to know that they are welcome and wanted by both parents and new siblings. The other, not less important, is that parents WANT their children to be an integral part of the wedding and celebration.

The following are ideas, implementation of which depends on the ages / abilities of the children and the degree of involvement the marrying couple wishes to dedicate to them.

Children must always feel that they are IMPORTANT especially now, when their parent is marrying a new life partner.

LET’S BEGIN WITH PLANNING AND PREPARATION.

Children who are old enough should be asked to put on their thinking caps and help with the wedding planning and preparations. Their input should always be taken into consideration and if possible acted upon.

Children can make recommendations ranging from wedding themes to color schemes. They can suggest favors and help make them. Some parents even let the children help address envelops and / or stuff them.

It is also very important to make shopping for the wedding attire a family affair.

WE’LL CONTINUE WITH THE CEREMONY

First come the obvious. If the children or grandchildren are not grown ups, they should be given the duties of a Flower Child and Ring Bearer.

During the ceremony, after the bride and groom exchange vows, they may integrate vows dedicated especially to the children.

Children who are old and responsible enough, should participate in the Unity Candle ceremony. Here there are a few options.

If only one or two children are involved, they should be given their own tapers and join the bride and groom in lighting the pillar candle.

However, if more than two children are involved, they should receive their own tapers but rather than light the pillar candle, light their tapers from it.

The candle lighting ceremony is a perfect opportunity for children who are old enough to congratulate the bride and groom and acknowledge the new family union.

A friend who recently got married told us about the Unity Candle ceremony at her wedding. She had ordered a personalized pillar candle and seven personalized tapers, and gave each child a personalized taper.

The ceremony was actually a Family Unity Ceremony. All five children (his two and her three), all above 10 years old, wrote a congratulation and thank you note to the bride and groom. Once the Unity Candle was lit, they took turns lighting their tapers from the pillar and in unison, recited the following:

“As I light my candle from the Unity Candle, I feel the warmth, love and excitement of my new, larger family.

Thank you Susan (BRIDE’S NAME or MOM or MOTHER) and Bill (GROOM’S NAME or DAD or FATHER) for having given me an extended family to love and be loved by. Congratulations! I love you!

It was such a touching experience that there wasn’t a dry eye in the room!

Right after the Family Unity Candle ceremony, Susan and Bill exchanged their first gifts as a husband and wife and gave each of the children a Family Unity Medallion, and a BIG welcome hug.

Another way to bestow honor to a teen age or older child is to have a son walk the bride and/or a daughter walk the groom down the aisle. The child can be either the bride’s or groom’s.

The reception offers as many opportunities for involving the children as there is imagination. There are also the obvious toasts, dances, special responsibilities and tasks.

By Nily Glaser

©All rights reserved to Nily Glaser 2004

A-wedding Day

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5 Signs You’re Becoming A Bridezilla |

 

make upWhen women get engaged, they dread being called the dreaded B-Word: Bridezilla. We’ve all seen reality TV shows that depict crazy women throwing tantrums left right and center when things don’t go their way and vow that there’s no way we’ll be this way when we plan our own weddings, but how can you be sure?! Here are a few warning signs that might be able to catch you before you’re in too deep.

#1 You’re Not Very Empathetic
Your motto seems to be, “My way or the highway!” to others, but you don’t see it that way – you just think your ideas have been the best of the lot. While it’s fine to say, “This is my day!”, other people’s feelings and needs also need to be taken into consideration. If your fiancé doesn’t like the colors you chose, or your mother is hurt you’re not wearing a piece of jewelry she wanted to pass down to you, use this magic word… compromise! Come to a compromise that will make everybody happy.

#2 You Don’t Find Time For Anything But the Wedding
You’re not giving anything the time of the day that is not wedding related in some way. The only thing you talk about is the wedding, and everything revolves around wedding details. You’re giving yourself, and everybody around you, wedding exhaustion. Here’s how to stop it: make sure that one night a week, you have a night with your fiancé where you don’t talk about the wedding under any circumstance; call your mom once in awhile to talk to her and find out how she’s doing without bringing up anything wedding related; set up a lunch date with your BFF where you focus on what’s going on in her life. Make sure that you continue to maintain the relationships that you have.

#3 Nobody Is Taking Your Calls
You’ve been trying to reach wedding-related people for weeks, but nobody will answer their phone, or return a text message. It’s not them – it’s you. Everybody has more going on than your wedding (like, their own lives, for example) and may begin to resent you if you forget about that. To assure that your choices during wedding planning don’t have repercussions for after, please be considerate of those you involve in your wedding.

#4 You’re Unrelenting
Of course, you have a specific vision for the wedding. Most of the time, though, sacrifices and compromises need to be made for a multitude of reasons. If you’re refusing to compromise your vision even though that might put you out of house and home, you’re falling off a steep cliff. Back away, before it’s too late. Of course, this is a special day, but remember, it’s not worth the destruction of your life.

#5 Your Registry Total Is More Than Your Wedding
The total amount of money on your registry reaches an astronomical proportion that is out of consideration with your guests and the amount of people you’ve invited. Here is some tough love: the gift is the presence of your guests, not the presents they bring with them. If they do bring presents, that is a sweet gesture that should be thanked profusely for, even if it’s not the brand new camera you put on your registry. Don’t be a spoiled brat.

While your wedding is incredibly special (no argument!), it is just one day. Make sure that you don’t do anything that could ruin that one day, but more importantly, that could make life beyond that one day awkward and difficult for you. If you keep that in mind, you can avoid falling in the Bridezilla trap.

5 Signs You’re Becoming A Bridezilla |.

Youtube Video – Bridal / Wedding – Darius Cordell Couture Designs Inc

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The Staff of Darius Cordell Couture

Customer Comments | Darius Cordell Dresses | Couture Fashion Designs

Since 1996 the company Darius Cordell has sold hundreds of evening dresses (via mail order with our on line catalog) to many new & repeat clients.  Below are just a few of the lovely comments we have received from wonderful clients of Darius Cordell who actually read our Q & A page as instructed and were ultimately able to understand and order through our very easy mail order process.

Selling plus size wedding dresses, mother of the bride evening gowns, formal wear ball gowns and plus size bridal gowns


Dear Hunter,

I just received my dress in the mail yesterday — I LOVE IT!  It’s just everything I thought I would want and more.  The cut is so ridiculously close; I only have a few minor alterations to have done.  Thank you so much for your help with this.  I am certainly happy I went with your company!

I do plan to get the word out about this among my group of opera friends.  I hope you get responses!

Thank you and all of the team at Darius Cordell Couture for bringing such a fabulous dress to life,

J.Barton – Bloomington , NJ


David:
Although I got concerned about receiving my dress for the wear date I did get it the day before (almost too close for comfort). However, I must say the dress is absoulutely gorgeous.  My mother was a professional designer and seamstress for years so believe me when I say the dress and workmanship was without flaw. My daughter designed the dress for me and she was thrilled when we opened the package and her original sketch was taped to the outside.  You made her vision a lovely reality. I tried on the dress and all my husband could say was “WOW”  and after 28 years of marriage that is a great compliment.  But the best compliment came from my daughter.  She said “Mom, when I get married that is the dress I want you to wear.” It just can’t get any better than that.Thanks so very much,D. Bell – Blyththeville, Ar


It is magnificent!! And a perfect fit! I’m totally in love with it! Even my Brazilian fancy shoes are a perfect match for my beautiful dress!  I just had to send you the pictures that my husband took of me, yesterday.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Giselle – Calgary Alberta – Canada


Absolutely beautiful; great service!

J. Machnacki – Canton, MI


Thank you for your superb customer service.
M. Sharp – Dallas, Tx


Dear Hunter. Just returned from my trip to find the beautiful gown in my closet.  I’ll be taking it next week for alterations. Thank you.   My husband and daughter think it is beautiful. Thank you  for repairing the star and replacing some of the stones. My first couture dress.   WOW!! J. Bradley – Washington Dc


Thank you so very much for being so responsive to my situation!!  The dress arrived in perfect condition — a little wrinkled.  It actually fits very well —- a little hem, nip and tuck here and there and it will be perfect!!  I am so very grateful to my daughter for finding your website —–the quality and  design of the dress is wonderful!! Again, thank you for rescuing me —-I am so looking for to wearing the gown at the ball!!D. Green – Morgantown, WV


Received the turquoise gown today and it is fabulous!.   Thank you for the terrific service!    I will be ordering another gown in the near future.Thank you again,
S. Nelthorpe – Riverside, CA


I thank you for your excellent customer service, from what I have recently experienced it seems to be a rare commodity within the bridal shop industry (condescending attitudes, “I’m doing you a favor” demeanors). K. Fitzpatrick – South Walpole , MA


Thanks for your help and your thoughtful emails.

E. Mobius – Bethel , Connecticut


Hi Hunter The dress was a huge success and as soon as I get the photos from my friend, I will forward a few to you. Of course, thanks again for all of your help.  You’re fabulous! J. Lefebvre – New York , New York


I really like my dress (C494, floor model, purple) Thank you for sending it to me so quickly.

Pauline B. – Los Angeles, Ca


I love this gown.  I received dozens of compliments at each event. In the near future, I’ll be in contact with you regarding two custom ballgowns. Hope all is well with you.

Respectfully yours,
S. Siracusano – SAUGERTIES, NY


THANK YOU HUNTER. I APPRECIATE THE EFFORTS. AND YES I WILL BE ORDERING FROM DARIUS IN THE FUTURE.  THANK DARIUS FOR ME.  I WORK IN A SERVICE INDUSTRY TOO, SO SOMETIMES GIVING A INCH FOR A MILE CAN PUT A SERIOUS DENT ON OUR BUSINESS VANEER BUT IM ONE THAT ALWAYS REMEMBERS THOSE THAT GIVE GRACIOUSLY SO DARIUS CORDELL IS IN MY “GOLD” BOOK. CHEERS HUNTER,
SUSAN – KAMLOOPS , BRITISH COLUMBIA , CANADA


I purchased 2126 in white and just received my dress in the mail. I just wanted to let you know how beautiful my dress is-I just love it- my husband and I are renewing our vows in Las Vegas for our 25th Wedding Anniversay at the Venetian Hotel and the dress is just perfect-thank you so very muchS. Spradlin – Littleton, CO


I just wanted to say how absolutely fantastic your website is. I’ve been on hundreds of wedding dress websites and none of them come nearly close to being as user-friendly as yours. The pictures are wonderful, your Q&A section was direct and to the point and comprehensive. Excellent job!Cheers,
C. Braidwood – Ottawa, Ontario Canada


I WANTED TO LET YOU AND YOUR STAFF KNOW THAT I GOT MY GOWN. IT IS TOTALLY BEAUTIFUL AND SO ELEGANT WITH  ITS TRAIN!!!!  THE WORKMANSHIP IS SUPERB AND   THE BEADING ON MY STOLE MAKES THE OUTFIT GO OVER THE TOP AND TRULY  A CLASSIC.  THANK YOU AGAIN FOR MAKING THIS GOWN FOR ME TO WEAR AT THIS MOST IMPORTANT BLACK TIE AFFAIR.  MY BEST WISHESMargaret Scisney-Matlock, Ph.D., RN – Ann Arbor, Michigan


Hi David,I received the dress today and it is lovely–everything I wanted.  I look forward to ordering from you again.  I appreciate all your help.Sincerely,
P. Jefcoat – Little Mountain, SC


HelloI wanted to touch base with you and let you know that I recieved the dress.It was absolutely beautiful. And I rcieved many complimentsThere were over 700 in attendance and your dress is on the front page of the paper.It really is beautiful. Thank you and sorry about all the stress.Mayor Dianne Watts – Surrey Canada


thank you for your follow up. I have found some dresses locally although not as wonderful as the dress we have corresponded about. Again, thank you for responding to my inquiries.Best wishes,
C. Belford – Savannah, Georgia


I received the dress.  It’s beautiful and the color you picked for this dress is amazing.  I just love everything about it.  Thank you so much.

M. Abady – Alexandria, VA


Thank you very much for all of your wonderful e-mails.  I’m all set with what I will be wearing. Your fashions are fabulous.  I actually (this may sound cheap) have a friend that purchased one of your designs.  Her son and future daughter-in-law called off the wedding.  The dress fit me and I bought it from my friend.  I have two other children that are marriage age and I will certainly will go to your website again.Thank-you,
Sue Sousa – Castro Valley, CA


I have ordered a Darius Cordell for the past two years and I have loved each one of them. Thanks.
Daphne R Robinson – Alexandria, LA


I have recieved the wedding dress. Things have been a little crazy for me because of the move and everything, but I wanted to say thank you to whoever made my wedding dress. !   it is very beautiful and looks great on me.  thank you againSncerely,
L. Leach – boonton, nj


Good morning JD and the Gang, I just wanted to thank all of you. I received my dress yesterday, and it is almost perfect. It has a couple of quirks that have to be fixed, but I really like it. We’ll see how much the judges love it this weekend!

Thanks again,
Desiree A. Bodin – Cut Off, LA


Thanks so much David!!I swear that I will never buy another occasion dress from anyone else!!I love the selection…….and the quality is the best!!!  Thanks.I will be faxing my form to you shortly.Thanks again for everything!T. Gurda – new hampton, ny


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